When it comes to your sex life, there’s the main attraction, and a few common à la carte additions: oral sex, hand jobs, fingering, and bringing sex toys into the equation. Yet when was the last time your friend dished over brunch mimosas about the world’s best inner thigh job? Yeah, we didn’t think so. And ditto for armpits, ear, and...you get the idea.
But as it turns out, drawing your attention to these often ignored erogenous zones can rev your S.O. and yourself up for some hot sex. To find the most surprising EZs to caress, we reached out to sex experts and psychologists for the steamiest regions on your body.
1. The Pubic Mound:
It might not be the sexiest sounding body part, but this area above the pubic bone is cushioned with fatty tissue that can be a pretty electrifying spot when stimulated properly on both men and women. “Your pubic mound is connected to our genitals and sexual response thanks to sensitive nerve endings and glands that emit pheromones [chemicals your body produces that can trigger a sexual response from others], natural body scent, and sweat,” says Shannon Chavez, a psychologist and certified sex therapist in Los Angeles.
The Move: Start off by massaging the area with light pressure, which can work to increase arousal. “You can also lightly massage the tissue between your fingertips or gently suck and pull on the tissue with your mouth to create pleasurable sensations for your partner,” says Chavez. Roll your palm over their flesh to massage the tissue in different directions, and get a bit playful by taking your fingernails and lightly rubbing and scratching.
Just hear us out on this one. “It may seem a little intimidating to experiment with your partner’s armpit because most people steer clear of that area,” says Cory Beth Honickman, a relationship expert who's known as the “Relationship Mentor to the Stars.” But if you can get past a little sweat, hair, and taboo, it’s a surefire way to turn someone on between the sheets.(sex advice)
The Move: Take the tips of your fingers and gently brush your partner’s under arms. First, lightly go up and down before shifting to a brisk, circular motion, paying close attention to what elicits the best response (clues like moans, heavier breathing, and a flushed face should give it away). “The sensation of being tickled teeters on the brink of sexually thrilling,” says Honickman. It’s playful, sure, but also seductive. “The experience can also be mutually relishable because the hormones that are released can be very intoxicating for the person performing the act as well!”
“Although ears are considered to be highly erotic, they are often overlooked, making them an even hotter spot when you want to crank things up in bed,”says Emily Morse, sexologist and host of the Sex With Emily podcast. “The ears are actually very sensitive to touch because there’s a massive number of sensory receptors.” And due to all these nerve endings, stroking someone’s ears may help your partner climax, or even intensify their orgasm.
The Move: Kick things off by lightly tracing the C-shaped outline of your partner’s ear with your fingertips while you’re kissing. Slowly, let your mouth make its way over to their auditory apparel. “Gently kiss the earlobe, or hold it lightly in your mouth and massage it with your lips. If they seem to be enjoying this, you can take it as a green light to start to nibble or suck on the lobe,” says Morse. As you grow more comfortable exploring your partner's earscape, try gently biting, kissing, and blowing in tandem. To add an element of surprise, Morse suggests occasionally working your tongue into the center of your partner’s ear for an unexpected but pleasurable sensation.
Yes, really. “The area of the stomach between the belly button and pelvis in particular is a lesser-known erogenous zone,” explains Tristan Weedmark, We-Vibe’s resident sex expert. “The reason this spot can be so pleasurable is because you can actually stimulate a woman’s G-spot from that point, just on the opposite side,” adds Honickman.
The Move: “Not only is this area very sensitive, but light stimulation of it promotes blood flow to other erogenous zones,” says Weedmark. “The lower stomach is so dangerously close to the vagina and clitoris that the thought of moving farther south is also particularly exciting for many women.” Use your hands to gently caress the lower stomach, before applying a bit more pressure, and even scratching lightly with your nails. You’ll be able to gauge what your S.O. likes and incorporate it into regular foreplay. This area is also great for playing a bit with temperature: try delicately placing a hot or cold washcloth on the lower tummy before oral, or playfully dangling it from above and brushing it over the stomach teasingly.
How is this an erogenous zone? “Your hands are one of your most important sex organs,” says Chavez. And this is a great way to signal to your partner you’re ready for some horizontal action: “The hands are extremely sensual. Even a light tight touch can gently produce waves of sensation. And when you suck them, you’re actually having a form of oral sex.”
The Move: “If a partner sucks on a finger and massages it with the tongue, it sends the signal to the reward center of the brain similar to sex,” says Chavez. Why? Because fingers anatomically echo a phallic object and the mouth produces an orifice-sensation like the vagina.
6. Bottoms of the Feet:
“The feet contain pressure points that trigger arousal and they’re also packed with nerve endings,” says Weedmark. Since some people are ticklish down there, you’ll want to focus on firm, steady strokes over light and tickly motions.
The Move: You’ve got two options here. (1) During foreplay: “Lie alongside your partner while you make out and have them pull their knees up. Massage the arch of their feet as you kiss them deeply, and lace your fingers through their toes (as if you were holding hands with their foot),” says Shallon Lester, author of dating memoir Exes and Ohs and YouTube sex and dating expert. To end, squeeze your interlocked fingers around their toes with firm pressure. (2) During sex: ”If you're in reverse cowgirl, lean forward and dig your nails medium-hard into the balls of their feet or grip their big toe,” Lester says.
There’s no such thing as romance getting too tame for a hot and steamy kiss—no matter how long you’ve been together. “Lips are the most exposed of all erogenous zones, and are packed with a bunch of nerve endings located very close to the surface of the skin (they’ve got 100 times more than our fingertips),” says Morse. Even the slightest touch to our lips releases a happy rush of feel-good hormones to our brains that affect our emotions, as well as our nether regions, Morse explains.
The Move: To keep our sex lives exciting (especially with the same partner) we all could benefit from a little variety. “Use your own lips, teeth, and tongue to lick, nibble, and caress the top and bottom lip, experimenting with different amounts of pressure,” says Morse. When you come up for air, seductively trace the outline of your partner’s lips with your thumb while locking eyes with them and then get back to it.