While you probably already know that back-door entry during sex stimulates super-sensitive nerve endings, you might not enjoy the butt stuff as much because there's not much for you to do but let him hammer away. Luckily, the doggy-style take-it-from-behind position isn't your only option for anal sex, says sexologist and relationship expert Carlen Costa, Ph.D.
Fun fact: Being in control of the depth of his penetration can make booty sex even enjoyable than what you've tried before, says Costa. In fact, she says that one move in particular allows you to control the tempo, angle, and depth of his penis while giving you and your partner easy access to your clitoris for some serious stimulation. Sign. Us. Up.
1. The move: The Matterhorn is totally control freak-friendly, says Costa. And because this position widens your hips, it's more comfortable for your tush. Additionally, the Matterhorn enables you to regulate the intensity of penetration and the closeness between you and your partner. (sex advice)
2. Here's how to do it: Pile pillows on top of each other in front of your chest, and lean over them with your hands on top. In this position, your torso should be at a 45-degree angle, perpendicular to the bed or floor. Kneel with your legs spread more than hip-distance apart, and have your partner enter you from behind. So you'll look kinda like this (BTW this is the mountain this sexual adventure was named after):
Before you say, "Hey, now! This looks a little too familiar," you should know that geometry is on your side here. "Although this is similar to doggy style in that he is behind you, this position allows you to hold your body up at a straighter angle," says Costa. "This gives you the power to rock yourself back and forth while your partner presses their body against yours." In other words, they're just along for the ride while you run the show.
3. A few extra pointers: "Tease your anus beforehand to allow your anal cavity to become more relaxed and open to fully accepting the pleasure," says Costa. Addtionally, be sure to use plenty of lube, and make sure you're in control of the initial penetration so he doesn't enter you too quickly, says Costa. You can do this by reaching around and guiding the penis in with your hand or communicating with your partner about how fast or slow you want him to insert his junk.
Oh, and as we mentioned earlier, this position also allows you to easily stimulate your clitoris, "so you can achieve a fantastic blended orgasm," she says. You can do this by using a vibrator yourself or asking your partner to. Another option: Have your guy reach around for a little manual stimulation. But don't just take her word for it! *Wink*