"Sex tips" Introducing Sex Toys Into Your Relationship

Sex tips Introducing Sex Toys Into Your Relationship
Sometimes all the fun you're having in the bedroom hits a wall. Your various appendages aren't enough anymore – maybe things have gotten stale, maybe you want to try something new, maybe she wants more going on down there, or for longer. If you're worried about bringing up the topic of introducing a toy into your sex life, know this: A study of 3,100 people found that being sexually adventurous increased couples’ satisfaction levels, with sex toys being the most satisfying add-on for women. You won't be selling yourself short; you'll be helping her out.

And wouldn't she rather you look out for her in other ways when your arm gets tired? We spoke to the experts on your behalf to get answers on how to introduce sex toys between the sheets. Because it's probably best not to whip out the 18"-er right away.(sex advice)

1. Start Small:
Dr. Vena Ramphal, (PhD), Erotic wellbeing expert and author

"Start with a vibrator. As a first time sex toy they are non-threatening. And the buzzing noise brings a fun sense of novelty that will ease your partner's nerves."

2. Focus On Her Pleasure:
Rebecca Dakin, the "Great British Sexpert" from Channel 5's new show Sex Pod

"Communication. Talk about what it is you would like to experiment with and invite your partner to share the experience with you. Focus on her pleasure and try going to a sex shop together, or looking online and letting her choose what she would like to try. It’s good to get one you can both experiment with, for example bullet toys (clitoral stimulators) and vibrators also feel nice on men on the perineum and around the testicle area, sometimes even on the tip of the penis. Buy some lubrication and use lots of it on both of you." 

3. Break Out Of Your Comfort Zone:
Juliet Grayson, relationship counsellor​ and author

"If you’ve never done it before it’s a good idea to talk about it in advance so that both parties are expecting it. It depends how adventurous and experienced the couple is. Often, one partner is more reluctant than another. The way that sex works in a new relationship is that, if you and I were having a sexual relationship, you would basically say ‘Well, I don’t want to do this, this or this’ and I would say ‘Well I don’t want to do that, that or that’ and we’d do whatever was left over. So sex consists of the leftovers after what we both refuse to do.

Sometimes one partner is reluctant but there was a time you thought kissing with tongue was disgusting. There’s something about moving beyond your comfort. You can’t wait until you’re comfortable with something before you try it. You have to push yourself into an uncomfortable zone and then it becomes your new comfortable.

With any new introductory of a toy or a sexual position, remember that it’s no surprise if it feels odd, strange or uncomfortable at first… it’s good to expand your sexual repertoire and find out whether you like it or not, rather than rejecting it before you’ve tried it."

4. Do It For The Future (Of Teledildonics):
Maurice op de Beek, KIIROO CTO

“A lot of people are having exploratory experiences through teledildonics. You can feel each other over the internet. People do not need to be together to be intimate, which is especially important for couples in long distance relationships.”

5. We Recommend...

Adam & Eve Take Charge Remote Bullet

Great for solo or couple's play, the vibrating silver bullet takes teasing to the next level. Boasting multiple settings and a small, discrete aesthetic, this little bullet is a great way to add toys to a relationship.

We-Vibe Touch

The We-Vibe touch was designed to share. The unique shape was designed to maximize your stimulation while the waterproof design allows for seamless shower-to-bedroom play.