When guys make love, most of us tend to assume that the whole point of the session is our climax. And while the sex usually comes to a close (literally) after our liquid release, sometimes placing more emphasis on her satisfaction is much more important than focusing on our own.(sex advice)
So today, you're going to learn how to dedicate yourself to pleasing her and getting off on her reaction to all the amazing things you're about to do to her body and mind.
1. Don't feel blue:
Sometimes, however, when you hold back on your release for too long, you develop what is popularly known as "blue balls" (vasocongestion — an accumulation of blood and semen in the genital region that, if not released through ejaculation, cause an uncomfortable pressure — it happens to women too).
I am in no way suggesting that you go into your sexual session with the intention of depriving yourself of your ejaculatory pleasures; I'm simply advising you to place more importance on the situation at hand rather than the outcome.
Enjoy your time with your woman and, when the time is right, you can release yourself with the best of them.
2. Start her engine:
Undressing a woman is incredibly fun, so remove each item of her clothing slowly and with calculation. As you remove each piece, massage the newly naked area by pressing deep into her skin with the palms of your hands.
As well, you can lay your body lightly on top of hers and rub your chest against hers (yes, you're naked too), or better yet, you can unsuspectingly let your penis rub itself between her thighs. You will likely get an erection, but your self-containment will serve to turn her on that much more.
3. ah, what a linguist:
Going down on a woman will always come back to lick you on the penis tenfold. But don't just lower your face to the designated area abruptly. Kiss her mouth, then her neck, then her ear(s), then between her breasts, then around her navel, and finally, ignore her genital area and head to her inner thighs.
Inhale her freshness, and spread her legs as far apart as they can comfortably go. Bring your mouth as close to her vagina (or vulva) as possible without touching it. Then, when her legs begin to shake, look up at her eyes and lightly let your tongue tap against her clitoris. Don't be afraid to salivate; wetness is always a good thing.
Every move you make down there should be calculated and slow to start. Once her clitoris has been thoroughly drenched, make your way down to her inner labia (lips). Kiss each "lip" and then lick down the middle slowly, sticking your tongue inside her every now and then.
4. Sex, interrupted:
Now you can finally penetrate her. However, this isn't going to be straight on sex; oh no, you're going to periodically penetrate and then withdraw.
When you enter her, make sure to penetrate slowly and control your excitement. After a minute, withdraw your penis and kiss her mouth, lick her breasts or go down on her again.
Do this for about 10 minutes and feel free to change positions whenever you feel like it. The idea is to keep surprising her.
5. if she begs:
Keep in mind that, just like us, many women don't think the session's over until you've reached that almighty orgasm (ejaculation). So, although you'll be focusing your efforts on pleasing her, chances are she'll want to reciprocate eventually.
If she begins fidgeting and finally jumps on top of you and takes over the situation, simply go with the flow and let her show you just how much you turn her on. Of course, chances are that she'll bring you to an earth-shattering orgasm, but that's okay. She asked for it — rather, she demanded it.
6. The power of the p:
Although most guys think that they have no control over their orgasms, you are, in fact, the only person who controls what your body will and will not do (within reason). And you can train yourself to control your ejaculate at will.
Not only will your woman love the fact that you have such self-control, but your ability to put your instinctual pleasures aside to drive her body and mind crazy will make her want to jump your "bone" harder and faster than you ever imagined.
Until next time, jump start her body and you will reap the benefits for years to come — and I mean that exactly the way it sounds.